When we go in to mental battle with ourselves or with another person it is because of our unquestioned allegience to ideas that are not true.
The egoic thinking stream is a collection of ideas about who we think we are, and who we think the others we are in relationship with are. And one of the primary ways we hold these ideas of identification in place is through judgement.
Judgemental thoughts can either be directed against another person or against ourselves. When directed against another person, the judging thoughts ensure that we protect and hold on to our concept of self by making the other person wrong in their thoughts and behaviours. Even when other people’s behaviours may be inappropriate or we may be at the receiving end of hurtful behaviour, by making this personal, about me or about the other person, we can feed patterns of judgement and resentment that are very painful and also very unproductive. Till we determine to forgive and unravel these patterns. Very often what we are judging in another person is indicative of something we may need to learn about ourselves, or a projection of parts of ourselves that we are not yet prepared to own.
It is helpful to remember that people are functioning from their own view of the world and are doing the best they know how, given their background, circumstances and beliefs. Rather that judge, we could choose to see any negativity we perceive or directed toward us from another as a request for love.
When we are not judging other people, the judgement mechanism can be turned in on ourselves, as when we beat ourselves up about our own thoughts, behaviours and perceived limitations, and for having negative feelings. When we catch ourselves in these cycles of self judgement, we can choose to send love to all of our thoughts, to love our weaknesses, and our sense of vulnerability as well as our strengths.
In releasing self judgement or judgement of another with compassion we are remembering to to realign with the Truth of Self.
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